Lauren Thomas has found being a parent a very lonely experience

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Lauren Thomas, now aged 19, has discovered being a dad or mum a really lonely expertise

When Lauren Thomas, from Penlan, Swansea, found she was pregnant on the age of 17, her life was turned the wrong way up. Right here she tells how loneliness turned her fixed companion.

Once I came upon I used to be pregnant, I used to be in complete shock.

On the time, I used to be doing a bridge programme in Gower School Swansea, which teaches a spread of expertise from carpentry to catering.

I used to be having fun with it and had made numerous mates.

However I needed to depart the course early at Easter after I was 32-weeks pregnant.

My boy, Leon, was born on 19 April this 12 months after I was 18, and he’s the perfect factor that is ever occurred to me.

I was fairly depressed and was hooked on painkillers after injuring myself falling off a horse.

I did not care about anybody or something, or the results of my actions.

However he has made me come off the painkillers and begin caring for my psychological well being.

However whereas my life has benefited vastly from having him, it has additionally grow to be extremely lonely.

My faculty mates have fallen away – they simply need to drink on a weekend and I can not try this now.

I do not dwell with my boy’s father and get little or no household help, and it has been an incredible battle to fulfill new individuals.

When my boy was a new child, we used to take a seat in all day and watch TV.

I did not know what to do and I felt judged for having him so younger and never being excellent.

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Lauren needed to drop out of school and misplaced her mates when she had Leon

I had no person round me to offer help, and felt very unhappy and overwhelmed.

There was only a massive build-up of feelings and I felt like breaking down.

I went to some playgroups however the adults had been all the time occupied watching the youngsters, so it was not possible to fulfill anybody correctly.

I’ve largely been saved by Motion for Youngsters Wales, a charity which helps deprived youngsters.

I noticed a leaflet for his or her work and contacted them.

They informed me they organised journeys and ran playgroups the place the youngsters are in a creche, so there may be time to speak to adults.

Going to those occasions helped me to fulfill individuals and construct a brand new life.

Now my boy is eight months and I really feel extra assured.

Just lately the charity made me an envoy, so I speak to different households in the identical state of affairs.

It’s only a voluntary position however it means I’m out assembly individuals and studying.

It’s serving to me perceive that there are lots of new dad and mom like me, discovering the expertise extremely lonely and isolating.

At some stage, when Leon is a bit older, I plan to return to school to do a course in equine research.

For now although, it’s simply the 2 of us, studying how one can get by.